Look in the mirror. What’s the first thing you see? Most of us will look directly at what we dislike most about ourselves. We have to constantly double-check to make sure that little dimple in our chin, that no one else notices but is the bane of our existence, isn’t the center of attention. Being insecure is one of the hardest problems to solve. When you have an insecurity, that’s all you can think about. It screams your name every time you see yourself in the mirror or in that picture on your best friend’s Instagram. You have those friends that compliment you all day long and tell you how beautiful or handsome you are, but in your mind all you can think is “maybe, except for…” This is the worst part.
The first step to overcoming your insecurities is to stop caring what people think about you. It’s easier said than done, we know, but it’s a must. If someone doesn’t see how amazing you are, you shouldn’t care what they think about you. The truth is, the majority of the time that we feel so insecure, everyone else is too busy feeling insecure about themselves that they really aren’t worried about anyone else. It’s all in our heads. No one cares if you’re wearing that crop top and you don’t have a flat stomach. Wear what makes you feel good and do what makes you happy.
Now that you have stopped caring if someone saw your muffin top in those shorts, work them. Overcoming insecurities is kind of like facing a fear, the more you put yourself in that situation, the easier it gets. You might be thinking “Oh, so I’m supposed to emphasize what I don’t like about myself?” The answer is, YES. Exactly. Baby steps first. Start by taking photos of yourself that you don’t edit out whatever it is that bothers you about yourself. Take advantage of social media and put yourself out there. As soon as you escape your comfort zone, the easier it will be to gain your own confidence. You’d be surprised how other people don’t even notice what we call “flaws”.
Once you’ve gotten that little spark of confidence from the positive feedback on your social media blast, go all out. Sure, you may argue that even though all these people are telling you that you’re gorgeous, perfect and are even bombarding you with heart eyes and fire emojis, you still hate your smile. Try this on for size: fake it ‘til you make it. It’s almost like reverse psychology. If you keep telling yourself that you look good, you will start feeling good and accepting those compliments left and right.
“Today you are you, that is truer than true. No one alive, is youer than you.” – Dr. Seuss
As difficult as this journey towards self-love may be, take the wise words of Dr. Seuss and embrace your insecurities. Look in the mirror every day and tell yourself “I look good.” Learn to love the things that you always try to hide. Be confident in your own skin and show the world that you are the only (and best) version of yourself.
Photo by: Sarah Schreiner